How to win back their love: First Look After Yourself!

How to win back their love, after a breakup.

Understanding how to win back a love you have lost is unfortunately not something that we get taught. This means, when it happens to us, and we need to find a way to make up with someone who has walked out of our relationship, someone we still love deeply, we find that we don’t have any tools in our toolbox.  So here is your chance to add to your toolbox: to discover how to win back their love, and make them yours forever.

The Magic Of Making Up

First, never make the mistake of chasing after your Ex, this is especially important if the separation is recent, and the feelings are still raw. So if the noise from the breakup is still pounding in your brain, then you must give your Ex (as well as yourself) some space.  If you do not, and you start pursuing them now, you will only succeed in driving them further away.  Your chances of winning them back would go down quickly. So, just walk away.  No communication, no calling, no texting, no drive-by-honking, nothing.

Now ideally, during this time, you will be getting your own head on straight.  You need to spend this time being good to yourself, and getting back to the person you were: not the wounded puppy that came out of the breakup.  Even if you were the one that caused the breakup, you were the one that messed up so big that it ended everything; you still need to find a way to forgive yourself, and get past it.  To be able to learn how to win back your Ex, you need to be in top form, firing on all cylinders.  This will not happen if you are just holed up in your home, night after night, feeling sorry for yourself.

Get up and get out of the house!

So get up, get out, find some friends that are still speaking to you(just kidding!), and have some fun!  This will do several good things for you.  First, it keeps you occupied so that you are less tempted to contact your Ex.  It will also lift your spirits and self-esteem, and give you more self-confidence.  These things all need to happen if you are going to learn how to win back your Ex.

Hit the gym!

Another good tip is to hit the gym.  I know it may not be everybody’s favorite place, but it gets you some needed exercise, and puts you out amongst people even more.  Whatever you decide to do, any exercise you take on does your body good.  It also helps your mood and spirit by releasing endorphins in your brain that make you feel good and give you more energy.  This is a VERY good thing. This is all very important, as you need to be in the right spirit.  You need to BELIEVE that you know how to win back your Ex, and can make the right decisions to do so.

It’s easy to get dumped, and then to sit around gaining weight and feeling sorry for yourself, so make sure to get up and get out of the house if you want to learn how to win back your Ex.

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How to win back their love, the first days.

If you are looking around and wondering how to win back your love, then I imagine that you have found yourself in a spot where you are still in love with your Ex, but they have left your relationship.

The first step you must take in order to win back their love must be to put some distance between you and them, and make sure you have your head together. It would be a huge mistake to try and win back their love within just a few days of the breakup. This is especially true if it was a loud, or painful breakup. So be sure to separate yourself from the relationship, and maintain some distance.

The Magic Of Making Up

Your first duty is to look out for your own well-being.

You just went through a painful breakup, and it has done some damage. Even if you were to try and start a relationship with someone other than your Ex, it would (at this point) be doomed to failure. You’re just not ready. So this means absolutely no contact with the Ex! If for some reason, you must (to get valuables, or property or such, then take a friend, and make it an in and out affair, with a short time limit, and keep things cordial and upbeat. Absolutely no trying to set up any sort of next meeting, and no rehashing of the breakup!

This is not an easy thing to do.

One moment you are in a committed relationship with your Ex, now you have to make NO CONTACT. However hard this is for you, keep the long-term-goal (wining back their love) in mind. The reason you have to have no contact with your Ex is that it puts you in a position of weakness. It puts you puts you in a negative and vulnerable position. This is especially true if your Ex has requested that you leave them alone. (Be honest now, you know they did.) If you continually try calling, texting, or trying to see your Ex, you will become far less appealing to them: they will think of you as pathetic.

So since Ex’s absolutely hate this behavior, and use that hate to keep the “break-up fires burning, you absolutely must use this time and energy to get yourself together.

As you make yourself the focus, make sure you are not just spending all of your time all alone. It is so easy to find yourself just sitting around, re-running the memories of your old relationship, thinking of your Ex and your failure to maintain your relationship. Now, as I’m sure you can imagine this as a guaranteed way to get depressed. Allowing yourself to get depressed is a surefire way to inherit a whole other level of major problems that you just don’t want or need to deal with right now.

Get yourself out of the house.

Reconnect with family and friends (those people who care about you), anything to keep from being alone. Definitely get out and meet new people and have some fun! I know, this might not be easy at the beginning, but is a STEP IN THE PROCESS! If you want to find out how to win back their love, you have to do this!

You will feel yourself getting back to your old self after the shock and destruction of the break-up. Now it’s time to be honest about what role you had in the break-up. You have to be honest, because you were (at least) half the problem. If you still have a mutual girl-friend (a girl that was good friends with both yourself and your Ex), now would be the time to go out to coffee with her, and tell her to be brutally honest. It’s a guarantee that she noticed EVERYTHING. You could ask your mutual guy friend, but chances are he didn’t notice a thing….sorry, but it’s true.

Especially true when the break-up is fresh, it is very easy to blame your Ex for everything that went wrong.

This is easy to do, but it is wrong.

If you hold on to this, you are lying to yourself, and won’t be able to move past the break-up to a position where you can heal. It takes two to tango: learn from your mistakes. You have to own something to fix it so it doesn’t come back to bite you again.

The point is: During this time away from your Ex, you have to be painfully honest with yourself. You have to learn, and own what you did that contributed to the break-up.
Let’s face it: you can’t fix whatever your Ex might have done that was wrong, and contributed to the breakup. You are completely unable to fix another person. You can only fix yourself.

I’ll say that again:

YOU CAN ONLY FIX YOURSELF.

You can.

So did you make a mistake? Did you make a mistake that was so big that you “broke” your relationship? Or did you do something “small”? “Small” things build up, you know.

Did you do something “small”?

“Small” like a straw?

Was this the “straw that broke the camel’s back”?

See what I’m saying?

What did you do?

Whatever you did, you need to figure out how you are going to fix this. How are you going to change the behavior that made the mistake that ended up in your losing your relationship?

Now I know…..some of these steps will seem counter-intuitive.

Nobody said this was going to be easy, Rocco.

If you are genuinely serious about learning how to get your love back, then these steps, and others, are steps you MUST take.

How to win back your Ex: What to do FIRST!

How to win back your Ex

Have you just experienced a break up?
Are you wondering how to go get your ex back?

Almost every adult has experienced some kind of a break up, and many work just on moving on with their lives rather than looking for a way to get their ex back. But if you want to stop playing the victim and want to put some work in to get your ex back, then there are options for you. Everyone deals differently with a breakup, but does a break up mean that you cannot get back together with your ex?

The fact is, most of the time there is no reason why you cannot get your ex back after a break up, providing that you know what to do.

The first step is to make sure that you are not coming off as a needy person. Everyone feels like they cannot live without their ex, but there is no point in making this obvious. Instead, you should stay strong, and let your ex see that you are doing just fine by yourself. If you let everyone around you see your self confidence, then you will have a better chance of getting back together.
Watch this video by T Dub, it will let you know EXACTLY what to do:

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How can I start to win back their love?

Are you feeling like everything you do pushes your ex away further?  Are you asking “How can I start to win back their love” at every turn? Here are some tips that will greatly improve your chances of getting back together with your ex.

Obviously right now you are serious about saving or rekindling your relationship, which is what led you to this article in the first place. But if you are feeling too anxious to get your ex back, you may behave in the wrong way, causing your ex to pull away naturally. Are you calling your ex too much, constantly writing him e-mails or text messaging him? Are you trying to make him feel sorry for you? If you are doing these things, STOP! If you are asking yourself “How can I start to win back their love”, then you need to stop doing these things right now. It is human nature to resist this kind of pressure. Struggling against human nature is completely pointless, and it will only make matters worse.

So What can you do to get your ex back?
You’re going to follow this strategy instead.
You are going to need to take a completely FRESH approach.

Begin by breaking contact off for a while, doing your own thing. During this time where there is no communication between you and your ex boyfriend, you can focus on ways that you can improve your own personal life, rather than focusing on the relationship issues at hand. This is going to be a challenging time, and it is going to require discipline to prevent you from returning to your old ways.

While you’re doing this, your ex is going to experience a shift in how they feels about you, since you are no longer be pursuing them. You may become mysterious to them in some ways, because they are not sure what you are doing or feeling. This is actually something that can work in your favor. Now your ex is in a position where they are thinking about you, and actually missing you, which is not possible when you were in their face all of the time.

You must remember that the key to this strategy and repairing a break up is to work with human nature rather than attempting to work against it. If you are wondering ” How can I start to win back their love”, now you should have a fairly basic understanding on how common mistakes can be avoided. Once you implement this basic strategy you can restore a balance and allow your ex to remember why he loved you in the first place.

Just keep yourself grounded and avoid smothering them. Make yourself appear mysterious and they will be reminded why they loved you in the first place. Play hard to get (don’t over do it) and let them make the first move, and you will come out on top. And then you can stop asking “How can I start to win back their love”

Of course, this is just the beginning, to find out what you need to do next, GO HERE!