How to get Your guy Back Without Looking Needy


If you are a woman anxiously looking to get your ex back, it’s possible you are taking a desperate strategy that’s causing you to do stuff you usually would not do. Stuff that might be making you look “needy”.

Ring a bell?

You shouldn’t be too tough on yourself however, everyone’s been through it. You’ll survive this and emerge better after it’s all over.  For the time being, this out-of-character, needy behavior is just moving him even farther away and causing you to look like a doormat in his eyes……..NOT the most attractive “look” for you.

Put a stop to this dead-end behavior and then try these methods instead to get your ex back and also be even closer than ever before with all your self-esteem intact.


1. Do not fight  with him as to the reasons your relationship stopped regardless of how hard it might be. If he brings it up, simply pay attention to him and don’t argue. Possibly there is some truth as to what he’s saying? Become the bigger person and admit his point and just apologize.  (Would you prefer to be 100% right, or work out your romance? Here is a clue – hardly ever is somebody ever totally right about anything. So long as you are aware of the truth, that’s the only thing that counts. If you are in the wrong, a bit of humble pie goes a very long way.)


2. Don’t talk about all of the reasons why he can’t do without you. Men can’t stand it when women attempt to convince them to do something they are not prepared to do. Pleading with him to return only supports why he can in reality do without you very nicely. Do not forget that desperate and needy are genuine men-repellents.

Remember:  guys are drawn to self-confident ladies who are happy inside. Always keep in mind:  you are a catch. You are a treasure. Any guy will be fortunate to get you. So do not waste your time and effort attempting to persuade any guy to be with you. You’re your own person.


3. Taking responsibility for the break up on your behalf is a big thing. Can it be really truthful to blame everything on him? The correct answer is likely no, even though your pride almost certainly begs to differ. As they say, “It takes two to tango”. If you’ve been being completely truthful with yourself, certainly there were clearly some elements of the romance you might have managed better.


4. Hold out and allow him to get in touch with you.  A man (the hunter) places importance on things he must work for. Do not make it too simple for him.  Instead of calling him and pouring your heart out in a moment of weakness, get in touch with a buddy instead to talk-out your feelings.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and eventually he’ll want to know what you are doing.  He’ll get in touch with you for one of the following reasons:

a. He’s interested in how you are doing without him and wonders what you are up to

b. He is hoping for a booty call in which case you need to politely turn him down (you’re split up, remember?)

c. He truly misses you and really wants to see you

(Only consent to see him and talk when the reason is letter c.)


5. Become priority number one.Place yourself first for a change and just be worried about you. When he approaches you, don’t attempt to start up where your romance with him ended.  Let him know you’ve developed in both mind and spirit since you were last together. And most importantly, don’t allow him to persuade you that you are the only reason for the separation. Who started it really is unimportant at this time.

The way you both deal with things from now on is the thing that is important now.

One final thing, I HAVE to ask,  and be totally truthful.  Is he 100% worth reconciling with? Is he truly deserving of you?

To put it simply, you should have nothing but the best.










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