Announcement: How To Win Back their love: A New Tool…

Here is a piece of  “The Fast Forward Technique”  from the Magic Of Making Up. You’ll find it helpful to calm yourself during that mind-numbing time during or right after a breakup.  You know what I mean, when your thoughts a screaming around inside your head, and you can’t focus, or sleep, or even hold an intelligent conversation.

This was created by T Dubb Jackson, and even though this is just a small part of  “The Fast Forward Technique“, it’s worth putting here, because it really helps.  Watch it through once, and then maybe a second time, in a dim or dark room, and turn your monitor off, just leaving the sound on, and
~listen~

I think a big part of the problems we have during a breakup, is that we really don’t have the tools in our toolbox to help us cope with this stuff (Lord help me if I ever go through is so much that I get “good” at it!) So tools like these are REALLY helpful.

For the rest of “The Fast Foward Technique”, and more “Tools” from T Dub Jackson,

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How to get Your guy Back Without Looking Needy

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If you are a woman anxiously looking to get your ex back, it’s possible you are taking a desperate strategy that’s causing you to do stuff you usually would not do. Stuff that might be making you look “needy”.

Ring a bell?

You shouldn’t be too tough on yourself however, everyone’s been through it. You’ll survive this and emerge better after it’s all over.  For the time being, this out-of-character, needy behavior is just moving him even farther away and causing you to look like a doormat in his eyes……..NOT the most attractive “look” for you.

Put a stop to this dead-end behavior and then try these methods instead to get your ex back and also be even closer than ever before with all your self-esteem intact.

 

1. Do not fight  with him as to the reasons your relationship stopped regardless of how hard it might be. If he brings it up, simply pay attention to him and don’t argue. Possibly there is some truth as to what he’s saying? Become the bigger person and admit his point and just apologize.  (Would you prefer to be 100% right, or work out your romance? Here is a clue – hardly ever is somebody ever totally right about anything. So long as you are aware of the truth, that’s the only thing that counts. If you are in the wrong, a bit of humble pie goes a very long way.)

 

2. Don’t talk about all of the reasons why he can’t do without you. Men can’t stand it when women attempt to convince them to do something they are not prepared to do. Pleading with him to return only supports why he can in reality do without you very nicely. Do not forget that desperate and needy are genuine men-repellents.

Remember:  guys are drawn to self-confident ladies who are happy inside. Always keep in mind:  you are a catch. You are a treasure. Any guy will be fortunate to get you. So do not waste your time and effort attempting to persuade any guy to be with you. You’re your own person.

 

3. Taking responsibility for the break up on your behalf is a big thing. Can it be really truthful to blame everything on him? The correct answer is likely no, even though your pride almost certainly begs to differ. As they say, “It takes two to tango”. If you’ve been being completely truthful with yourself, certainly there were clearly some elements of the romance you might have managed better.

 

4. Hold out and allow him to get in touch with you.  A man (the hunter) places importance on things he must work for. Do not make it too simple for him.  Instead of calling him and pouring your heart out in a moment of weakness, get in touch with a buddy instead to talk-out your feelings.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and eventually he’ll want to know what you are doing.  He’ll get in touch with you for one of the following reasons:

a. He’s interested in how you are doing without him and wonders what you are up to

b. He is hoping for a booty call in which case you need to politely turn him down (you’re split up, remember?)

c. He truly misses you and really wants to see you

(Only consent to see him and talk when the reason is letter c.)

 

5. Become priority number one.Place yourself first for a change and just be worried about you. When he approaches you, don’t attempt to start up where your romance with him ended.  Let him know you’ve developed in both mind and spirit since you were last together. And most importantly, don’t allow him to persuade you that you are the only reason for the separation. Who started it really is unimportant at this time.

The way you both deal with things from now on is the thing that is important now.

One final thing, I HAVE to ask,  and be totally truthful.  Is he 100% worth reconciling with? Is he truly deserving of you?

To put it simply, you should have nothing but the best.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Getting Your Ex Back, How-To Tips

Getting your ex back completely dominates the minds of many a man and woman.  Maybe you were the one to finish the relationship thinking that life was passing you by.  Then, having been in the nightmare that is the life of a person who’s single, you have decided that your ex was fantastic and now you need to know how to get them back. Or maybe you were the one who was dumped but having had time to pull yourself together you are determined to show your former partner that they made a mistake.

Before you think about how to get your ex back in your life, you should be 100% sure that this is the outcome that you want.

You are going to spend a lot of time and energy achieving this goal but it will be a waste of everyone’s time if you are doing it merely for revenge.  This applies to those people that have been dumped, who start dreaming of revenge and how much it will make them feel better.   One quote that I believe in is revenge is a dish best served cold.  What this means is that you have to let your emotions, primarily your anger, cool off before taking any action.  What I believe the quote is trying to achieve is that by the time you have cooled down, you will forget about your ex and be putting your energies into meeting someone new.

But for those of us who have decided that our ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend was the ONE, here are some tips to try to getting your ex back.

1) You must not appear needy.  Desperation is never an attractive quality.  You will be far more successful in attracting your ex mate if you appear to be living your life to its fullest.  Never call or make contact with them. You will have sufficient mutual friends to be able to appear to be in the same location as your ex by accident.

2) Do not stalk your ex – again this is not the way forward. You want them to come back to you not have them report you to the police for stalking.

3) Always look your best.  Wear their favorite clothes, hairstyle, makeup etc.  Remember all those little details that used to drive them wild and use them to your advantage.  You must look as if you are doing just fine without them, not hurting and in pain (no matter how you feel inside).

4) Do not try and make your ex jealous by dating someone else.  This is juvenile behavior. There is never an excuse for using another person in this way. It is totally okay for you to meet people of the opposite sex, and strike up new friendships.  What you cannot do is to try and date someone that you feel will make your Ex jealous.

5) Try being direct.  Men and women often have communication issues hence the best-selling books such as “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus” etc.  So sometimes the best way to getting your ex back is just to tell them how you feel.  Apart from a little pride, what do you have to lose?

If you are certain that getting your ex back in your life will make you happy, you need to pull out all the stops!

What to do next…

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When NOT to Listen To Friends

 

When you first met your spouse, there’s a good possibility that it was probably a chance encounter.  You met through a friend, or at work or at a social engagement (yes, in the grandstands at the football game counts).  You were being yourself, in mood, humor, intelligence and style.  You met, and there might have been an instant spark, or it may have taken time to develop as you were able to get to know each other.  At this point, you may have started trying to impress your future spouse, but you were still being yourself, just a brighter, shinier self.  You progressed to dating, learning all you could about this fascinating person you were beginning to fall for.
Somewhere along the line, the idea of marriage worked its way into your plans.
More than likely, unless you got married when you were 16, you were not the first person in your group of friends and associates to get married.  I’m guessing, that you can remember at least one friend or relative (and I’m guessing it was many more than just one) “pushing” you to get married.  Oh, it was a nice “push” they told you how wonderful marriage was, and how you would be so much happier then you already were.  Think back, these people that were encouraging you to get married; they were all married, right?   Think on this, we’ll get back to it in a bit.
Now, after marriage, was where your loss of self-began.  It’s a normal thing; it comes from living with, and loving another person.  It usually happens more to one of the partners more so than the other, it’s what happens when you adapt to living with another person.  The amount of change can vary, depending on your situation: are you at home all day taking care of the kids?  Is one of you still in school, or going back to school, growing in all sorts of ways?  There are many reasons for people changing, some good and some not so much.
Speaking of kids, do you remember back before you and your spouse got pregnant?  Did you have some good friends and loved ones “pushing” you to have babies?  Did they tell you how happy you would be, how much more “complete” you would feel?  Now think:  had those people all had kids of their own?  Again, save this, we’ll need to use it later.
So now, after time in the marriage has passed, and changes to each of the partners have taken place, you may find that you’re having problems.  You may even be worried that your marriage might come to an end if you can’t figure out how to save it.
We won’t go into the reasons for the problems: there could have been lies, betrayals, a growing apart…it really doesn’t matter what the reasons are, just that you recognize that there is a problem, and that you take action.  The main problem, when you boil things down, is that you, and probably both of you have changed, and not in the same direction or at the same rate. The person your spouse fell in love with, the qualities they most admired, is not there anymore.
So where do you go for advice on what to do next?
You need to go to a professional.
Here’s why.

Remember those things I asked you to remember a little bit ago?  (I told you we would be getting back to them.) Here is what was happening then, and here is what you don’t want to have happen now.  People have a need to feel that they made the right choices in their lives.  If they look and see people they love and respect making the same choices they did, it validates their choice.  Makes them feel all warm and fuzzy about what they decided to do.  When they were “pushing” you and your spouse to get married, it was because they had gotten married and needed to feel validation that they had made a good decision.  When they were “pushing” you to have a baby, it was because they had had a baby, and wanted to feel good about their choice.
Here, however, is where it is now dangerous for you and your spouse.
Some, maybe many of those same friends and loved ones have gone through a divorce.  So people being people, what do you think those people will recommend to you and your spouse if they know you are having relationship problems?  Right.  They will be now “pushing” you to get a divorce.  They will make it sound like the best choice, maybe the only choice.  You will hear nothing but negative coming out of their mouths about your relationship, and no positive reasons why you should work to fix the problems. Is divorce the best thing for you?  I hope not.  But it will make them feel better about their decision to end their own marriage.  It will validate them.
You don’t want to validate them.  You don’t want to give them the opportunity to poison what might already be a shaky relationship.  What you really want to do is to do everything in your power to validate all of the time and effort you have put in to your relationship.    You want to save your marriage, and your best bet is to go to a professional whose job it is to do just that if at all possible.

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How to win back their love: First Look After Yourself!

How to win back their love, after a breakup.

Understanding how to win back a love you have lost is unfortunately not something that we get taught. This means, when it happens to us, and we need to find a way to make up with someone who has walked out of our relationship, someone we still love deeply, we find that we don’t have any tools in our toolbox.  So here is your chance to add to your toolbox: to discover how to win back their love, and make them yours forever.

The Magic Of Making Up

First, never make the mistake of chasing after your Ex, this is especially important if the separation is recent, and the feelings are still raw. So if the noise from the breakup is still pounding in your brain, then you must give your Ex (as well as yourself) some space.  If you do not, and you start pursuing them now, you will only succeed in driving them further away.  Your chances of winning them back would go down quickly. So, just walk away.  No communication, no calling, no texting, no drive-by-honking, nothing.

Now ideally, during this time, you will be getting your own head on straight.  You need to spend this time being good to yourself, and getting back to the person you were: not the wounded puppy that came out of the breakup.  Even if you were the one that caused the breakup, you were the one that messed up so big that it ended everything; you still need to find a way to forgive yourself, and get past it.  To be able to learn how to win back your Ex, you need to be in top form, firing on all cylinders.  This will not happen if you are just holed up in your home, night after night, feeling sorry for yourself.

Get up and get out of the house!

So get up, get out, find some friends that are still speaking to you(just kidding!), and have some fun!  This will do several good things for you.  First, it keeps you occupied so that you are less tempted to contact your Ex.  It will also lift your spirits and self-esteem, and give you more self-confidence.  These things all need to happen if you are going to learn how to win back your Ex.

Hit the gym!

Another good tip is to hit the gym.  I know it may not be everybody’s favorite place, but it gets you some needed exercise, and puts you out amongst people even more.  Whatever you decide to do, any exercise you take on does your body good.  It also helps your mood and spirit by releasing endorphins in your brain that make you feel good and give you more energy.  This is a VERY good thing. This is all very important, as you need to be in the right spirit.  You need to BELIEVE that you know how to win back your Ex, and can make the right decisions to do so.

It’s easy to get dumped, and then to sit around gaining weight and feeling sorry for yourself, so make sure to get up and get out of the house if you want to learn how to win back your Ex.

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How to win back their love, the first days.

If you are looking around and wondering how to win back your love, then I imagine that you have found yourself in a spot where you are still in love with your Ex, but they have left your relationship.

The first step you must take in order to win back their love must be to put some distance between you and them, and make sure you have your head together. It would be a huge mistake to try and win back their love within just a few days of the breakup. This is especially true if it was a loud, or painful breakup. So be sure to separate yourself from the relationship, and maintain some distance.

The Magic Of Making Up

Your first duty is to look out for your own well-being.

You just went through a painful breakup, and it has done some damage. Even if you were to try and start a relationship with someone other than your Ex, it would (at this point) be doomed to failure. You’re just not ready. So this means absolutely no contact with the Ex! If for some reason, you must (to get valuables, or property or such, then take a friend, and make it an in and out affair, with a short time limit, and keep things cordial and upbeat. Absolutely no trying to set up any sort of next meeting, and no rehashing of the breakup!

This is not an easy thing to do.

One moment you are in a committed relationship with your Ex, now you have to make NO CONTACT. However hard this is for you, keep the long-term-goal (wining back their love) in mind. The reason you have to have no contact with your Ex is that it puts you in a position of weakness. It puts you puts you in a negative and vulnerable position. This is especially true if your Ex has requested that you leave them alone. (Be honest now, you know they did.) If you continually try calling, texting, or trying to see your Ex, you will become far less appealing to them: they will think of you as pathetic.

So since Ex’s absolutely hate this behavior, and use that hate to keep the “break-up fires burning, you absolutely must use this time and energy to get yourself together.

As you make yourself the focus, make sure you are not just spending all of your time all alone. It is so easy to find yourself just sitting around, re-running the memories of your old relationship, thinking of your Ex and your failure to maintain your relationship. Now, as I’m sure you can imagine this as a guaranteed way to get depressed. Allowing yourself to get depressed is a surefire way to inherit a whole other level of major problems that you just don’t want or need to deal with right now.

Get yourself out of the house.

Reconnect with family and friends (those people who care about you), anything to keep from being alone. Definitely get out and meet new people and have some fun! I know, this might not be easy at the beginning, but is a STEP IN THE PROCESS! If you want to find out how to win back their love, you have to do this!

You will feel yourself getting back to your old self after the shock and destruction of the break-up. Now it’s time to be honest about what role you had in the break-up. You have to be honest, because you were (at least) half the problem. If you still have a mutual girl-friend (a girl that was good friends with both yourself and your Ex), now would be the time to go out to coffee with her, and tell her to be brutally honest. It’s a guarantee that she noticed EVERYTHING. You could ask your mutual guy friend, but chances are he didn’t notice a thing….sorry, but it’s true.

Especially true when the break-up is fresh, it is very easy to blame your Ex for everything that went wrong.

This is easy to do, but it is wrong.

If you hold on to this, you are lying to yourself, and won’t be able to move past the break-up to a position where you can heal. It takes two to tango: learn from your mistakes. You have to own something to fix it so it doesn’t come back to bite you again.

The point is: During this time away from your Ex, you have to be painfully honest with yourself. You have to learn, and own what you did that contributed to the break-up.
Let’s face it: you can’t fix whatever your Ex might have done that was wrong, and contributed to the breakup. You are completely unable to fix another person. You can only fix yourself.

I’ll say that again:

YOU CAN ONLY FIX YOURSELF.

You can.

So did you make a mistake? Did you make a mistake that was so big that you “broke” your relationship? Or did you do something “small”? “Small” things build up, you know.

Did you do something “small”?

“Small” like a straw?

Was this the “straw that broke the camel’s back”?

See what I’m saying?

What did you do?

Whatever you did, you need to figure out how you are going to fix this. How are you going to change the behavior that made the mistake that ended up in your losing your relationship?

Now I know…..some of these steps will seem counter-intuitive.

Nobody said this was going to be easy, Rocco.

If you are genuinely serious about learning how to get your love back, then these steps, and others, are steps you MUST take.

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How to win back their love: How Can I Save My Relationship When My Lover Wants to Breakup?

When you find out that the love of your life wants to breakup, the pain and the hurt can be overwhelming. You feel hurt, you feel humiliated, you feel empty and lonely and you can feel a deep anger growing within. You might be wondering: “How can I save my relationship?” I mean, really? After all putting your heart and soul into the relationship, who you cared deeply about, and who you thought cared just as deeply about you. No matter what they said, you still want to be together, not live apart, and definitely not live all alone.

The Magic Of Making Up

It’s not as bad as it seems right now. You can save your relationship, your relationship could actually come out of this stronger than it has ever been before if you learn the right things to do. In fact, there are many things that you can do to re-interest and recommit your lover, simple things that will get your partner to want to be with only you, and be back in a loving relationship.

You just have to learn what these things are; you have to know how to do what you need to do.

We as humans respond in a negative way to certain things, and in a positive manner to other things. To help “fix” things, you need to learn how to get a positive reaction from your spouse, a response that means that they really want to be with you, and only you.

How do you do that, where can you go to learn to “Save My Relationship”?

You simply need to learn from somebody who has been where you have been, and knows what you need to know. It probably would have been very helpful if somebody would have given you a manual when you were getting involved in the relationship, but since that just doesn’t happen, you’ll have to learn all about it now. When you do that, when you find the information you need, you’ll know it immediately. It will make so much sense that you’ll wonder why somebody didn’t teach you this stuff before. Once you learn it, you will feel hopeful and confident that you can do the right things so your relationship will remain intact, and even be stronger in the long run.

So if you are still asking yourself: “How can I save my relationship?”-your answer is as simple as finding the right teacher, the right techniques, the right methods to re-attract your lover, and keep them interested in you and your relationship……a relationship that will last for the rest of your lives.

LOOK HERE  for the information you need to know what to do, where to go to learn how to make things right again.
The Magic Of Making Up

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How to win back their love: How to Get Your Life and Your Ex Back

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Going through a breakup is one of the hardest this we have to go through…..it’s worse if you are the one being left behind. The sadness and hopelessness can be almost overwhelming. Even if you are the one leaving, you might be filled with doubt and pain. There’s no doubt about it, coping with a breakup a hard, hard thing.

Fortunately, you CAN survive a breakup, and even find out how to win your ex back, if you want them back 😉

Getting yourself back together after a breakup takes time, it also takes knowing what to do to help yourself. We’re often so confused and upset that we don’t have a clue about how to feel better about life, our future and ourselves. You need to learn to take some control and learn the things that you need to do to mend your heart.

Don’t worry, there is plenty of hope.

If you’ve experienced a painful breakup and you want your ex back, there is plenty of hope for that, too. Believe it or not, you can get both your life and your ex back. It’s just a matter of learning the right strategies and methods for achieving both goals.

Coping with a breakup is tough. You have to be strong and determined. Learning how to win back your ex back takes strength, too. You can gain confidence in yourself to renew your life and your relationship with your ex by finding out the proven methods that others have used to turn things around and make them better than ever!

What you need is a PLAN, one that takes things in small bite, that will get you moving in the right direction…

LOOK HERE, to find out what the next steps are….

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Coping With a Breakup: How to Win Back Your Ex and Get Your Life Back

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Breaking up is one of the hardest things a person can go through. Even if you’re the one who’s causing the breakup, it can still be painful and full of problems. If you are the one who is being dumped, the sadness can be overwhelming. Coping with a breakup is rough. Fortunately, there’s hope for surviving a breakup and even how to win back your ex (that is, if you want your ex back).

Getting yourself back together after a breakup takes time and it also involves doing what it takes to help yourself. We’re often so confused and upset that we don’t have a clue about how to feel better about our life, our future and ourselves. That’s the time when you have to take control and learn the things that you must do to begin to mend your broken heart. And there is plenty of hope.

If you’ve gone through a painful breakup and you wantto win back your ex, there is plenty of hope for that, too. Believe it or not, you can get both your life and your ex back. It’s just a matter of learning the right strategies and methods  for achieving both goals.

Coping with a breakup is tough. You have to be strong and determined. Getting your ex back takes strength, too. You can gain confidence in yourself to renew your life and your relationship with your ex by finding out the proven methods that others have used to turn things around and make them better than ever!

For a free report that will show you your next steps, laid out in perfect, small, easily do-able steps (baby steps are a good thing right now..)

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How to win back their love: Some “Love Quotes”

Sometimes the best way to say something is the way someone more literary than you has said it. In that vein, here are some relationship quotes of note:

“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”
-Oprah Winfrey

“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” -Anthony Robbins

“Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same.” -Flavia Weedn

“The act of forgiveness is the act of returning to present time. And that’s why when one has become a forgiving person, and has managed to let go of the past, what they’ve really done is they’ve shifted their relationship with time.” – Caroline Myss

“Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.” – Mark Twain

“Well, it seems to me that the best relationships – the ones that last – are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is… suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with” ~ Gillian Anderson

“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” – Aristotle

“The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.” – Helen Keller

“Where does the family start? It starts with a young man falling in love with a girl – no superior alternative has yet been found.” – Winston Churchill

“It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations.” – Kahlin Gibran

“To love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person.” – Eric Fromm

“Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.” ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

“You can’t stop loving or wanting to love because when its right, it’s the best thing in the world. When you’re in a relationship and it’s good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete.” ~ Keith Sweat

“Our greatest joy-and our greatest pain comes in our relationships with others.” ~ Stephen R. Covey

“Love doesn’t just sit there like a stone; it has to be made – like bread, remade all the time, made new.” – Ursula LeGuin

“Once the trust goes out of a relationship, it’s really no fun lying to ’em anymore.” -Norm from Cheers

Just Sayin……

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